You will be surprised how many guys get nervous when a girl likes him. Yes, they may get more flirty and cute with you, but some guys just don’t know how to respond to this, even if he feels the same way.
It’s okay for a girl to ask a guy out or tell a guy that she likes him because it saves everyone time in the long run. You can go on a date or two and then decide whether you do want to be with this person. But asking someone out means telling her/him [that] you like [them]. Of course, there are many different ways on how to tell a guy you like him. It all depends on your personality and who you are as an individual.
You can say something simple like “Hey, I like you. Would you want to go out sometime?”
Or it can be something more creative or even funny if that is your personality type. An example would be, “I have a chocolate shake for you.” And when he asks about the shake, simply say, “It’s melting.”
There are many options on how to tell a guy that you like him. It all depends on what works best with your personality and who this person is as an individual. You can always try out different ways until one of them sticks!
But, here are some tips that will make the whole thing easier for you.
Just tell him that you like him
Don’t say it awkwardly. Say it in the most normal yet cute way that you can think of. If he rejects you, then good riddance to him! You don’t need a guy who doesn’t appreciate or love you back.
Be straightforward with your feelings and also be confident when telling a guy that you like him. Don’t let them see any signs of weakness because they will take advantage of it. Just tell him from the beginning so there are no assumptions about how things may go between the two of you.
Don’t sound too desperate by saying things along the lines of “I like you… Do you want to go out?” That’s just annoying and makes girls seem desperate for attention/affection.
If you are sure that this guy is someone special, then tell him straight out! There’s no reason to keep it a secret. You should take the chance that even if he rejects you, you’ll at least know whether or not there is any kind of romantic connection between the two of you.
Who knows? Maybe telling him will make your chances higher because there won’t be any assumptions about where your relationship stands!
TL;DR: Be confident, straightforward, and honest when telling a guy that you like him. Don’t beat around the bush because guys have feelings too.
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Start showing interest in things he likes
If you want a guy to be yours, then it’s not going to happen if you ignore him. It might seem obvious, but it does work when trying to get a guy to like you. If he likes something that you can relate to or find interesting, then start talking about it!
Don’t talk about the topic every time you see this person though because then you’ll just become “that girl” who talks about [insert topic here].
Also, try finding out what his interests are and showing interest in it. This will make the conversation flow better and easier for both of you instead of awkwardly standing there and asking questions, which breaks down comfortable barriers between two people. Plus, we all know how much guys love girls who can make them laugh!
TL;DR: Start talking about topics that are of interest to him, not you. If you do want to talk about something that is also of interest to you, then just do it in a normal/casual way.
Be yourself around him
Don’t act differently around the guy that you like just because he likes you back. Being yourself allows people to see who you truly are and if they don’t accept your ways, then it means they aren’t right for you. There’s no point in faking how you are or hiding things so that other people will find you more attractive/perfect/etc… Just be yourself and let the chips fall where they may!
Compliment on his looks, personality, whatever you can
Everyone loves a compliment! If a guy likes you back then he’ll also love when you say good things about him. Take the time to notice something that’s different/unique or just a quality that makes your special guy stand out from the rest.
If it feels weird complimenting someone on their looks straight up, then try saying something about how they look good in [insert clothing here] or how their smile brightens up your day. Just make sure that if you do say something cute about their appearance, that it is true and not just said because you want them to like you.
TL;DR: Compliment them on their personality, looks, whatever is applicable for the situation at hand. Be honest!
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Give subtle hints that you like him
If you want to tell someone something but don’t know how they’ll react, then the best thing to do is drop subtle hints so there are no misunderstandings.
Dropping these sorts of hints might be a little difficult in this situation because it’s pretty unclear what he knows about your feelings towards him. Maybe he already knows because you told him before or maybe he has no idea at all! You can try dropping little “hints” that may or may not get through to them because it will show that you’re interested without saying things directly if they aren’t ready for it yet!
TL;DR: Try giving subtle hints instead of being direct with your words.
If you’re nervous about it, then don’t be afraid to ask for their help
Who knows? Maybe your crush is also crushing on you and they’ll love that you asked them how to tell a guy that you like him!
Remember that guys are people too and we all want someone who understands what we go through emotionally and can trust us with their feelings. So if he likes you back, then he’ll probably want to help because this could be his opportunity to make both of your dreams come true (hehe..)
TL;DR: Don’t be afraid to ask for help from the person whom you’re trying to get closer with. They might just have know-how!
Make sure you know his relationship status
The last thing you want is to fall head over heels for someone who already has a girlfriend/boyfriend. Make sure that the guy that you like isn’t taken already because if he’s your one and only, then there’s no point in finding out later on down the road!
TL;DR: Know whether or not they’re single before developing feelings for them.
Don’t drop hints about him liking you back unless you’re 100% certain it will get through to them!
This can be nerve-wracking and awkward so practice makes perfect, am I right? It might feel weird at first but then it’ll just feel more natural as time goes on and soon enough it’ll become a piece of cake to tell a guy that you like him!
TL;DR: Don’t drop hints unless you’re positive it will get through. If it’s not, then don’t risk ruining your relationship with them because they’ll think you’re weird and/or desperate for attention.
If he doesn’t like you back, then just move on!
Not everyone we like will love us back because that’s just life… Believe me, I know how this feels and it sucks big time but what can we do? It would be pointless to pine over someone who so clearly doesn’t return the feelings so just accept it and continue living your life with or without them in it! You deserve someone who thinks about no one else but you and would do anything to make you happy.
TL;DR: If you like someone who doesn’t like you back, then don’t pine over them because there are so many amazing people out in this world for you to meet! Don’t give up on love just yet!
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Compliment about the things he does
Some guys have a hard time being vulnerable and opening up about their feelings so if that’s the case, then don’t be afraid to compliment them on other things instead! Complimenting someone could make them feel comfortable enough to tell you how they feel about you.
TL;DR: Don’t focus solely on compliments regarding their looks because it could make them uncomfortable. Try complementing their personality too!
Ask more things about him
Reaching a level of comfort with someone is the first step towards successfully telling someone you like them! If you want to learn more about their past relationships or how they feel about commitment, then ask away.
TL;DR: Ask questions because it’ll make him feel comfortable enough to tell you his feelings about you.
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Use your body language to show you like him.
If you want him to know that you like him, be sure to give it away through your body language. Keep eye contact with him when he’s talking. Lean towards him when you laugh at his jokes. Touch him on his arm or shoulder when you make a point or agree with one of his ideas.
Don’t be afraid of what the other person thinks, especially if you feel deeply for them and they will never find out! As was previously stated in this article, all that matters is how YOU feel about someone. So don’t worry about whether or not they’ll notice a new change in your behavior around them; just go ahead and express yourself fully!
If they do notice an in your behavior, they might ask why you’ve been behaving this way. So if you don’t feel comfortable telling them how you feel, make up a reason for your behavior:
“Oh, I’ve just been feeling really happy recently and wanted to show it!”
“I guess I’m just really happy being around you.”
Make more eye contact with him
It’s simple: the more eye contact you make with him, the more likely it is that he will like you. If you can’t look into his eyes for some reason (he makes you nervous, you’re shy, etc.), then aim for any part of him besides his face; i.e., his chest or arms. Anything but his face will do! 🙂
Also, try to avoid repeatedly glancing at him and looking away as this sends out negative signals and shows insecurity and lack of confidence.
Laugh at all of his jokes, even if they aren’t funny
When a guy tells a joke and gets no reaction from either laughter or facial expression on your part, it means one of two things: either you don’t think the joke is funny OR you think he’s trying to make conversation with you.
Neither of these is good–the first because it means that he thinks his jokes aren’t funny, and the second because it means that he knows nothing about making conversation! So if a guy says something even slightly humorous, laugh at it! If necessary, hold back your laughter until he sees your facial expression (or glances). That way, when you burst into laughter after seeing what someone else’s reaction to the joke was, they’ll know that YOU found it funny.
Touch him on his arm or shoulder.
Touching someone on their arm or shoulder can be extremely effective because this part of the body is very sensitive and receptive to touch. However, avoid constantly touching him because it can be distracting and irritating: do it only when you need to emphasize a point or want him to look at you.
Send him verbal signs that you like him
When talking to the guy you like, try using phrases such as “I’m so glad we’re friends”, “Having fun with you is easy”, and “I appreciate your presence in my life”. These types of things show your interest more clearly than saying something like “You’re hilarious!” which doesn’t give any indication of liking someone back. If he seems confused about why this topic comes up out of the blue, make a joke about it! That way he would know that you’re just playing around.
Be happy just being around him
Feeling happy when you’re with him is a good sign because it means that you feel comfortable and secure around them–something that they probably never see in other people! So if there is a place in your life where the guy in question seems to always make an appearance, try going there more often even when he’s not around.
This will make him realize that they bring out the best part of your day no matter what happens, and might spark interest or curiosity in what exactly it is about them that makes you feel this way! This is also good because when they find out how much positive energy they give you, they might be relieved to know that their presence in your life doesn’t suck!
Start smiling when he looks at you
If you’re in a group when this happens, look at him in the eyes and smile the biggest smile you can. Smile with your teeth! This will show him that you are truly enjoying his company…without saying a word. Now he knows how to make you feel better! He’ll be so happy that he will want to come back around more often just so he can see you again.
Show him genuine concern for his well-being
When someone cares about another person’s wellbeing, they do small things to let them know that they are thinking of them or looking out for them. The point is that they don’t want their friend or partner to feel lonely or hurt because it makes them sad too! So if you ever see him upset for any reason, ask him what’s wrong in a concerned voice. Then say something like “Hey, it feels better when you’re around–I never want to be without you!” or “You should put all your problems behind you and focus on the good things in life.”
These are sweet little things that show that isn’t afraid to express their feelings and make sure someone close to them knows they are important!
Straight up ask if he is single
This will save you a lot of time and heartache if he has a girlfriend already. By asking, you can also put all your cards on the table so he knows exactly where things stand between the two of you–although this step isn’t always necessary because there are other ways to let him know!
Just ask him out on a date
This is the last step. Once you have truly shown your affection for him, don’t be afraid to just ask him out on a date! If he has no reason to doubt how much you care about them or their feelings, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with asking them if they want to go somewhere with you instead of playing games forever. Delaying things will not make him like you more–it’ll only annoy him and make your affections confusing! Plus, it will be harder for him to say “no” if he knows that your feelings are genuine and that all it would take is a “yes” from his end for everything to change between the two of you. Just remember: love happens when someone gives us a little push to go for it!
At the end of the day, if you’re feeling hesitant about telling a guy you like them, take a look back at how they’ve been treating you up until now. If you haven’t been crazy about their behavior lately, then chances are that it’s not worth your time to tell them anything–and don’t expect any “miracles” just because you do!
Help him with something
If you’re around him and see that his phone is out of battery or that he needs help with something, give it to him if it means a lot to him. Give anything that makes them happy–it’s so easy! This is such a little thing, but such a big sign of affection toward someone, which will make guys wonder why you even bother at all. Trust me: they won’t forget this kind gesture anytime soon!
If you were wondering how to tell a guy you like them, consider these nine things and don’t be afraid to go for it! Even though there is no perfect way to say “I like you” without scaring him off or making him feel awkward, following these steps have actually helped girls get what they want–and if it worked for them, it’ll work for you, too!
Dress up for him
Dress up a little to feel your best. You don’t have to wear a dress or anything formal, but do put on some makeup and perfume to make yourself look extra good! The way you look will affect the impression you give off–and that’s what he’ll be looking at first. After all, girls are emotional beings who care about how they look, so why shouldn’t guys?
Relax and believe in yourself!
Believe it or not, self-confidence is one of the most attractive characteristics a girl can have–to both guys and girls alike! So if there’s any reason for you to feel insecure at the moment (even if it isn’t this guy try doing something fun that reminds you of how great you are, like going to a party or spending time with your family and friends. That way, you’ll never have to worry about having something to say when he wants to hear what’s on your mind!
Don’t be too pushy
If you’re crushing on him and want it all immediately, don’t expect anything at all–and not overnight. Things will follow their own pace no matter what we do–but if we try our best, they’ll turn out even better than the slowest version! In other words: sometimes love needs a little “push” from us! Good luck with this one!
Start sending him cute messages
If you see him posting something on social media, send him a cute message. This may be just one word or a comment, but if he sees that it’s from you, he’ll get the meaning. Messages are also nice because they don’t take up too much of your time, so if you’re not ready to fully commit by calling or texting him all the time, this is the safest way to go about it!